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Views expressed by Sleep Talkin' Man rarely reflect the opinions of waking Adam.
Especially the desire to exterminate all vegetarians (but he does hate lentils.)

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Apr 11 2012

"Okay, Jesus, if you are the son of God, wave your hands in the air... Ha ha. Didn't think so."

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What a lovely Easter sentiment.

Now, a few nights ago, I was lying there insomniacally, minding my own business, when I heard a strange rhythmic sound coming from the other side of the bed. I turned and looked over, to find Adam, face down, palms flat on either side of his head, slamming his face repeatedly into his pillow. For a long time. It was pretty freaky.


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KAREN: You did something really weird.
ADAM: What?
KAREN: I heard this rhythmic... thing, and I looked up, and you were going (lying face-down, lifts head and slams face back down into pillow, repeatedly)
ADAM: Oh my god, I was head-banging again!
KAREN: And at one point, you briefly turned to the side (turns head, and continues demonstration)
ADAM: I do it on the side!
KAREN: But then you said, nope (face-down again, bangs a few more times). You did it for, maybe, a minute straight, a long time.
ADAM: I used to do it for twenty minutes, half an hour, awake, when I was a kid.
KAREN: Is that how you do it? Down into the pillow? It wasn't that you banged your head on the crib or something?
ADAM: No! No, that would've hurt. I used to do this, hang on.
KAREN: Wait, you remember this?
ADAM: Oh God, yeah.
KAREN: How old were you?
ADAM: This was going from when I was very very young, 'til about eight or nine. I used to put myself to sleep this way. I used to put music on, and head-bang to music.
KAREN: Okay, do it.
ADAM: Okay, I did it more on my chin—
KAREN: Okay, I'll sing, ready? (singing horribly, as Adam head-bangs along) I set fire to the raiiiiiiiin, watch it (giggles)...
ADAM: And sometimes I do this (head bangs more slowly)—
KAREN: Yes! That tempo is exactly what you were doing.
ADAM: It's really nice.
KAREN: Hold on, let me try it. So, on your chin—
ADAM: —on your chin and mouth.
KAREN: (tries a few bangs) .... I don't find anything nice about that.
ADAM: (joins in, and we bang together) I used to do this, Mum and Dad would be in the room, and I used to talk to them like this (bangs to the side). And I'd be talking, but it's not so nice on the side, then I did it face down. And I did it so much, I used to get a callus. I used to split my chin, and there was blood all over my pillow, a scab on my chin—
KAREN: And what did they think about, you'd be talking to them doing that?
ADAM: Well, they took me to the the doctors, and they said, actually, a lot of boys do it. Um, normally they grow out of it before I did—
KAREN: What, before they're 39?
ADAM: Yeah. And very few of them did it to music. But it was relaxing. It was a de-stressor.
KAREN: It freaked that shit out of me. It was really really really strange.
ADAM: Um, hmmm. Well, something's bothering me, or—
KAREN: But you've never done it before. Certainly never that I've known of—
ADAM: I wonder if it was the rosé that's—
KAREN: What?
ADAM: —having alcohol—
KAREN: No, you've had alcohol other times.
ADAM: I don't know, maybe it was the tiramisu, took me back to childhood... Something's triggered me.
KAREN: Maybe it's just all this stuff with [name censored]. Or maybe it was just fun.
ADAM: Yay! Bang my head!

11 comments:

  1. When I was a teen I had a friend who did this in her sleep on occasion, it really freaked me out the first couple of times. I can't remember if I ever asked her about it when she was awake.

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  2. I use to suck my thumb, some kids bang their heads I guess.

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  3. Children find "Self Comfort" mechanisms when they are very little, sucking a thumb, or rocking, and others. Mine was rubbing my feet together in a sort of figure 8 motion, which I find myself still doing in times of duress. Somehow I don't think I would find head banging especially comforting, but to each his or her own.

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    1. I rub my feet together too! Or I kick them. Not my whole leg, just little foot kicks, like a flipper.

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  4. Its not so odd I used to do this when i was a kid too

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  5. I dated a man (he was 21 when we started dating) who did this his whole life. From what I understood, he did this to put himself to sleep when he felt sick (he has cystic fibrosis so he was sick a lot AND he was an alcoholic). It freaked me out too, I had never seen anything like it until I dated him and I grew up with 2 older brothers.

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  6. I would bang my head on my pillow too! Eventually, I stopped but I still remember doing it. I don't even know why I did it some much. Maybe I was trying to knock myself unconscious, LOL

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  7. who is that censored person?

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  8. Wow, what happened to good ole masterbation?

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  9. My son, who is 30 now, started doing this at 9 months to a rhythm he 'sang'. The doc said that many sensitive children do it to self-soothe. He turned out to be a fine artist, and still does it on occasion.

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  10. i used to do it too... right up to adulthood. i stopped when my husband asked me to. i should ask him if i still do it in my sleep.

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